Unexpected Realities Of Networking As A Female Working Professional In Singapore

I’ve been in my industry for just over 10 years now, and if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that networking can open doors you didn’t even know existed. Some of the best opportunities I’ve had, whether it was a new role, building rapport with a client, or even just solid career advice, came from conversations over lukewarm wine in a crowded ballroom.

But here’s the thing: while networking has definitely helped me grow in my career, it hasn’t always been smooth sailing. Behind the LinkedIn-worthy smiles and handshakes are some very real (and sometimes awkward) realities that female professionals like me face in Singapore. Here are some unexpected realities I faced and what I did to overcome or manage them.

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You may be judged on what you wear

On the first few big events that I was required to attend, I spent an evening trying to decode the “unwritten dress code”. Too formal and I’ll look like I’m trying too hard. Too casual and someone might mistake me for an intern.

What I’ve learned is that comfort and confidence trump everything else. These days, I stick to a business-chic wardrobe. Nothing too tight that requires constant tugging or adjusting. One of my go-tos is a casual blazer because it instantly adds polish without making me feel stuffy. The best part? I still get to keep my feminine edge without worrying if my outfit will betray me mid-conversation.

Boundaries are essential (especially with the opposite gender)

When networking, you’ll discover that it could blur the lines between professional and personal. The good thing is you might have a group of industry friends for life. On the flip side, a “let’s grab a drink” invitation after the event can sometimes feel like it’s heading into ambiguous territory. Early in my career, I didn’t know how to say no without worrying that I’d come across as unapproachable.

Over time, I realised that setting boundaries doesn’t make you rude. It makes you respected. If I sense that a meeting is veering off-course, I redirect the conversation back to business or suggest a more neutral setting for follow-ups, like coffee during office hours. The key is to be polite but firm. Most people get the hint when you keep things professional.

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Your alcohol tolerance might be tested

I used to think networking events were all about little canapes on tiny plates and small talk. Then I realised in Singapore, it also means standing around with a glass of wine or beer in hand. And sometimes the drinks keep coming. It gets a little tricky for someone like me who didn’t used to have a high tolerance for alcohol.

Here’s my personal strategy: I pace myself, alternate with water, and sometimes order a mocktail (tbh, nobody really notices if you’re holding a pretty drink, alcoholic or not). And if you can’t or don’t drink for religious or personal reasons, that’s totally fine too - suggest coffee/tea networking instead. You may get the occasional teasing, but people tend to respect your choices especially if you decline politely but firmly. I’ve done plenty of meaningful chats over lattes. The point is connection, not what’s in your glass.

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Chauvinistic or sexist remarks still happen

I wish I could say I’ve never encountered a sexist remark at a networking event. Sadly, I’ve heard my fair share of comments. The first time, I froze. Should I laugh it off or call it out?

What I’ve found works best is neither ignoring nor escalating. I usually respond with a lighthearted but pointed rebuttal. For example, when someone once joked that women “probably don’t enjoy working late,” I replied, “Oh, I don’t mind as long as someone else does the dishes at home.” It broke the tension, got a few laughs, and subtly made the point. The goal isn’t to embarrass them, but to signal that I’m not okay with the remark and set the tone for future interactions with this person.

Your partner’s trust matters too

Networking doesn’t always end when the event does. Sometimes, the most valuable conversations happen after hours.

In the event I am staying out late for something work-related, I make it a point to keep my husband updated about where I’m going, who I’m with, and what the event is about. It’s not about asking permission. Instead, it’s about building trust with your partner.

Networking is about more than just collecting contacts

At the start, I used to treat networking like a numbers game. The more business cards I collected, the better, right? Wrong. I ended up with a stack of cards from people whose names I couldn’t even remember the next day.

Now, I focus on quality over quantity. I’d rather have three meaningful conversations than thirty shallow ones. It’s about listening, finding common ground, and following up. The best connections I’ve made weren’t necessarily the ones with the fanciest titles, but the people I genuinely clicked with.

So, is networking worth it?

Absolutely. It can feel intimidating and occasionally awkward, but it’s also one of the best ways to grow both personally and professionally. Networking has taught me to be more confident, assertive, and adaptable. Plus, it’s introduced me to people who’ve become mentors, collaborators, and even friends.

If you’re a female working professional in Singapore, the reality is you’ll face some unique challenges along the way. But with the right wardrobe, boundaries, sense of humour, and support system, you’ll be more than equipped to handle them.

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